"Jesus, the Perfect Example of Obedience"

February 18, 2012

As a mother, teacher and leader in preschool education, it is so exciting to me when a child immediately obeys his/her authority!  I want to challenge you, today, as parents, to really work on consistent obedience in your children. When you call your child's name, he/she should immediately respond or react to your leading in their lives.  As hard as it is to be consistent in disciplining your children, it is far better to handle it now, than to have rebellious children who later will be hard to "reign in"! 

Jesus, even though He was the only Son of God, was very obedient when He walked this earth as a child and later, as a man.  The story of Jesus, in the temple, at twelve years of age (Luke 2:41-51), is a beautiful one!  Jesus had been with his parents at the Feast of the Passover.  When Mary and Joseph left to go home, Jesus was not with them. Three days later, when they found Him, He was in the temple...sitting among the teachers, listening to them and asking questions. As His parents questioned Him about why He did what He did, He could not understand why they did not understand. Even with this misunderstanding, however, Jesus went back home with them to Nazareth and the scriptures tell us: "He was obedient to them." (verse 51)

One of the strongest ways to love your child is to discipline him/her and see that he/she is obedient to you...not just every now and then, but every time.  Just as we, God's children, must respond and obey when we hear God's voice, our own children must respond and obey when they hear their parents' voices.  What would happen if your child was in danger, and you called out to him/her in order to save his/her life, and he/she did not respond or obey?  What if your child were to grow up and really not know your voice?  What would happen if every time you speak to your child, he/she just looks the other way?  It is up to you to provide that love and discipline in your child's life.  For, in obeying and hearing your voice, he/she will learn to distinguish the voice of the Father, Almighty God! Don't you think He will have a lot to say to your child?  Don't you want your children to respond to and obey their Lord?

It will be a rewarding experience one day when you can say that your child is ready to face the world.  In thinking of Jesus, Luke 2:52 says it well, "And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man".  Do you have the desire for your child to grow that way?  Is it your daily desire to seek God's guidance to help you be consistent and patient as this growing process happens?  The bottom line is this: "How much do you truly love your child?"  Enough to call for obedience on a daily, consistent basis?

Here's to the journey...it is a daily process!

Cynthia

"The Treasure Box"

February 10, 2012

Have you ever noticed how excited children get over little treats or little treasures?  It seems like just the smallest little surprise really thrills them!  I love to watch our four-year-olds when they go to the treasure box at the end of the week. If they have had a really good week, it earns them a "trip to the treasure box"!  On Fridays, they will sit and look at their treasures, over and over, at carpool time. And, many times, they will exclaim, "Look, Mrs. Burke, look at my treasure!"

I have often wondered how we, as adults, feel about our treasures. Are our homes filled with treasures?  Do we look at our children as treasures?  Do we hold God's Word highly, in our lives, as a treasure?  Do we count our blessings as treasures?  Those are some very thought-provoking questions.  Today, I would like to talk about our homes.  In God's Word, He speaks through Solomon, the son of David and king of Israel.  In Proverbs 24:3-4, Solomon writes..."By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures."  I asked myself, "What are those rare and beautiful treasures?"  And, after pondering that question for a while, I believe God is speaking of those treasures that are of "eternal" value, not earthly ones. Treasures of love, joy, caring, trust, and generosity...giving to one another...over and over.  Treasures of time, unity, respect, peacefulness and unselfishness.  Those treasures of which only the Lord can direct...only He can make complete.  It is these valuable treasures that I believe Jesus is speaking of when He was teaching the disciples..."Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But, store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and thieves do not break in and steal.  For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." Matthew 6:19-21.

Have you ever considered those treasures being a part of your home?  Think about going from room to room and looking deep into the corners there.  Can you say that these treasures are fully immersed in the atmosphere of those rooms? Does God permeate every crook and cranny of your house?  When a visitor comes into your home, do they sense that something is different?

I would like to encourage you to work at making your home...heaven on earth!  A place of love, rest and peace...where your family can "come in from the world".  Matthew 13:44 reads: "The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field.  When a man found it, he hid it again, and then in his joy went and sold all he had and bought that field."  Oh, that our homes could be heavenly places...protected from the caress of the world...protected from evil itself!

"In Christ, are hidden all the treasures of wisdom and knowledge." Colossians 2:3.  Ask the Lord to help you and trust Him to give you wisdom to have that sweet aroma of valuable treasures in your home!  It will be His desire to do so!

Here's to the journey...fill it with treasures!

Cynthia

 

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"I Can See Clearly Now!"

February 3, 2012

I remember being in the second grade and having a hard time seeing the blackboard.  My teacher moved me closer to the front of the class , but I still could not see.  She talked to my mom about it and after a visit to the eye doctor, we knew I had to have glasses.  I had inherited my dad's weak vision.  However, when I got my glasses, it was amazing how much better I could see!  Everything was so much clearer!

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"What's Your Hair Doing?"

January 27, 2012

I love the humor and curiosity of children!  In fact, I probably have one of the best jobs in the world....to just get to be with children all the time!  WOW!  My own children used to say, "Mom, you really love your job, don't you?"  "Yes", I would reply, "I do!"  Children are so honest and so innocent...there are so many times that I have wondered, "What must he/she be thinking?"  They can say some really funny things, but many times, they just plain old tell the truth and it can really "stop you" in your tracks!

I have often thought that I wish I had taken the time, through the years, to jot down all the cute little things children have said...it would be quite a book!  I remember, one day, walking down the hall with a serious look on my face and one of them looking up at me and exclaiming, "Mrs. Burke, are you mad?"  Then, one day, after I had colored my hair with a new color and added some highlights, one little boy looked up and asked, "Mrs. Burke, what's your hair doing?" Yet, another day, one little girl asked, "Why is your hair so gray?"  One of the cutest questions was in music one day when one asked, "Who's the daddy at your house?"  And, "Mrs. Burke, do you sleep at the church?"  I love the times when they try to get my attention just to say, "I love you, Mrs. Burke!"  Oh my, how precious and what treasures!  I can not imagine the world without the beautiful gift of children that God has given to us!  They love to talk to us and share their little stories, their little imaginations...and have you ever thought about that twinkle in their eye and the cute, little smirk on their face when they are trying to express themselves?

I just want to encourage you and remind you today that God has truly put joy in your life, if you are a parent.  Yes, there will be trials and hard times, but, rest in the Lord, be at peace, for your child is one of the most joyous treasures you will ever have!  Take time to listen and share with him/her.  Laugh together, love together and live together in harmony!  When you share quality time with your children, your heart should burst with joy!  What an opportunity! What a responsibility!

My prayer for you is that you will rejoice in the Lord and lift your heart in thanks for the "bundles of joy" you have in your children!

"I will praise You, O Lord, with all my heart; I will tell of all Your wonders.  I will be glad and rejoice in You; I will sing praise to Your name, O Most High!" Psalm 9:1-2

"In Him, our hearts rejoice, for we trust in His holy name!" Psalm 33:21

Here's to the journey...take joy and delight in it!

Cynthia

"Is There Spaghetti on Your Stationary?"

January 20, 2012

Is there spaghetti on your stationary, is there a dirty spot on your skirt or are you dressed to perfection and don't want to be touched?  Those are kind of tough questions and may be quite confusing, but I think you will understand them when I share with you what is on my heart today.  I certainly hope so.

I had a conversation with a wife and mother of four children one day.  She was even a minister's wife.  As we were talking about our children, I picked up on some real harshness in her voice...thus, coming from her heart.  She shared with me about how she really did like for the children to help around the house and do chores, but she usually had to go behind them and straighten it up or do it over after they completed their part.  She actually said, "It was never really good enough for me.  You, see," she said, "I am a perfectionist!" Then, she continued to share with me about how she would let the children help with the Christmas tree, but always had to go back and move the ornaments...when they were not looking...it was never good enough for her!  

I remember thinking, "WOW, that's really something!"  I always really felt like my mom loved for me to help around the house and if it was not perfect, that was ok...the fact was that I had helped!  My mom always felt like those were times of teaching and bonding with her children.  I remember hearing her say, "Well, if you don't actually do it, how are you going to learn?"  And, my sisters and I loved to do those chores together.  And, the Christmas tree...oh me! That was a work in progress...it seemed that every year, our skills got better and better!

May I ask you?  What and how is your child going to feel if he never gets to help?  Or, if when he does, you have to do it over again? How about the times when you are fixing things up for company or maybe even writing a card and your child wants to be so close to you that he/she gets spaghetti on your stationary...or whatever there might be on his/her face at the time!  What about the times when you are getting really dressed up and your child runs in for one more hug before you go?  And, when you look down, there's a smudge of chocolate chip cookie on your dress or skirt? Or dads, maybe a spot on your tie?  How do you react?

I want to challenge you to take a deep breath and realize that things don't have to be perfect.  Life is life!  And, you know, it is so much more important for your child to feel comfortable in loving you, touching you and even helping you...much more important to them than having the feeling of "not being able to touch you at certain times" or " just plain old not being able to be himself"!  Be sure your child feels and knows his/her importance in your life.  Be sure you do not push him/her away...just because it has to be perfect or because you just don't have time for him/her. And, when he/she does a job or chore for you, make him feel proud of his work.

I had much rather have spaghetti on my stationary or a smudge on my skirt, than a fresh-pressed, spotless dress anytime! Just think about it!  You will be glad you did!

Here's to the journey...share a little spot or smudge!

Cynthia

"Do You Rock or Do You Stand Firm?"

January 13, 2012

 

I love to watch children and their actions, especially when they are with their peers and close friends.  It is so easy to see those who want to control and those who have strong self-confidence.  Control can be a positive thing or it can be a negative thing.  However, self-confidence should be positive for a child, at all times, if it is channeled in the right direction.  Did you know that you, as a parent, have the most influence on your child's self-confidence?  When he or she matures and has to be independent, will your child be able to stand firm and know that he/she really has an opinion and really has self-worth?  I certainly hope so!  And, I hope that, right now, every day, you are building your child's self-confidence and helping him/her become an individual that can stand firm.

I love the parable that Jesus told about the house that was built on the rock. (Matthew 7:24-27)  Jesus says in this story that the man who built his house upon the rock, was a "wise" man for, "the rains descended, the floods came and the winds blew, and yet it did not fall, for it had been founded upon the rock". (verse 24)  A firm foundation is established through love, care, instruction and discipline in the home. It also comes from a steadfast faith that is secure in the knowledge of God and His Son, Jesus Christ.  A firm foundation in the Lord is as strong as the oak tree that is planted by the river bank...it will not waver, it will not rock or be torn by life's trials and problems.

Once again, I want to remind you that God has gifted you with your precious child/children.  He has entrusted them to you and it is a huge responsibility, yet with the wisdom and guidance of the Lord, it can be a wonderful process to watch your child grow into the man or woman that God has destined him/her to be!  Be consistent with your love, your discipline, your time and your response to your child.  Be careful to always try to give godly advice...advice that has been prayed over...advice that has been given in God's Word. And, one day, you will see the fruits of your labor in parenthood...you will have a child that is self-confident, independent, firmly rooted in the Lord...you will be rewarded!

I don't know about you, but, I had much rather stand firm than be rocking, anyday....take the measures to be deeply rooted and firmly planted...and build your home that way, too!

Here's to the journey...stand firm!

Cynthia

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"To Tell the Truth"

January 6, 2012

"To Tell the Truth"...it was a popular TV game show, during the years 1956-1968, where a panel of celebrities would listen to the stories of three contestants and try to guess who was telling the truth.  It was always quite interesting to hear the made-up stories of the false characters...they really sounded like they were telling the truth!  I was very young at the time of this show's popularity, but even as a young child, I remember thinking about just how hard it must have been for the ones, who were not telling the truth, to keep a straight face!

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"What Child is This?"

December 16, 2011

"What Child is This?"...one of my favorite Christmas carols!  I love the words and the beautiful melody...and really just the way it expresses itself...so simply!  The celebration of Jesus' birth on that starry, starry night was quite incredible!  Can you just imagine the stirring and the business about that stable when our precious Savior was born?  And, don't you know...Mary must have had so many questions...she pondered so many thoughts in her heart and mind!  I know she must have looked at tiny, baby Jesus and asked..."What child is this?"

I wonder today if you have asked such a question.  Have you pondered, questioned and even imagined those kinds of thoughts about your own child.  Maybe you have looked deeply into the eyes of your precious offspring and asked, "What child is this?"  Maybe you have asked God, "Why did You give me this precious life to love and nurture into adulthood?"  Maybe, for you, now is a hard time of parenting.  Maybe there are frustrations and even anxieties!  Maybe it is an easy time...the road seems smooth and bearable!  Or, maybe you are really looking forward to seeing this child become what God has intended for him/her to be. 

As you ask yourself, "What child is this?", there are many paths to consider...

1) Your child may be super sensitive with his/her feelings.  If so, take time to help them understand their friends, their peers and their leaders.  Help them learn to handle life, itself!

2) Your child may be physically over-active.  He/she may really push your buttons as you go about your day.  You may find it hard to even rest until bedtime comes each day.  Ask the Lord to give you patience and to give you wisdom as to know how to channel that activity in your child.

3) Your child may have a very serious personality.  He/she may have a hard time just learning to have "fun".  As a parent, try to be very sensitive to this and make every effort to create "fun" for your child, so that he/she can learn to laugh!

4) Your child may have a disability that is hard to deal with.  Consider adding a prayer of thanksgiving to your day (if you don't already).  Giving thanks adds such dimension to any situation that is hard to deal with, especially, when it is totally out of your hands.  Give God total control over that child.

5) You may think that your child is just plain perfect!  You know what?  That's ok, but just remember you still need God's guidance and wisdom.

It is my prayer that as you look into the eyes of your child...this precious gift from God, that you will ask the question: "What child is this?"  And, as you do, I pray that you will remember, above all, that this child is yours, but only for a while...God has immeasureable love for your child and definite plans for his/her life.  It is so important to the future of your child that you give your total attention to how you raise him/her and that you do it, on bended knees, with God totally in the forefront of the life of your child!  And, remember too, that just as God had that divine plan for His child, Jesus, He has a divine plan for your child, as well!

"What Child is This?"  He is THE Son of God!

Here's to the journey!

Cynthia

"The Power in God's Gifts"

December 10, 2011

I am a day late writing my blog this week.  Yesterday was a very full day...lots to do, lots to take care of...weddings can do that you know!  Now, here it is...the BIG day!  And, I am really glad I am writing today, instead of yesterday. For, the day yesterday was so full of God and so full of His gifts to us...gifts of love, gifts of beauty, gifts of family, gifts of friends, gifts of unity, gifts of peace...I could go on and on!  I can truly say that because of God's gifts yesterday, in that one 24 hour day...my life is different!

As I woke this morning, I realized I was truly awake...not going to be able to fall back to sleep.  So, I got up and gazed out the window at the back of our house.  As I did, I saw the most beautiful moon...positioning itself to continue on its journey...to the place where in just a few minutes, it would be gone from my sight!  And, as I gazed, God reminded me, once again of the power of His gifts...the gifts from His hands!  I thanked Him for the dawning of a new day!  I thanked Him for the peace He is giving a mother who is transitioning to a mother-in-law...and I mean that with love!  I thanked Him for His grace, mercy and and the loving hands of a Creator who loves with no boundaries!

Last night, as I listened to the melodies of beautiful music, as I watched the hands of those playing the instruments, and as I watched family and friends mingling and sharing with one another, I could not resist the temptation of wanting to just "hold those moments"...for just a little while...to ponder and remember the years...oh, how the Lord has blessed! You see, without God's gifts, we would be nothing, we would be nowhere, we would be without purpose, as His children. The power of those gifts goes far beyond anything the world can offer, anything we think we can do on our own.  The power of God's gifts is eternal!  The power of His gifts is life-changing...it is transforming...it is enriching!

I encourage you to take each day...live it to its fullest...don't fret about tomorrow, but rest in assurance that God is with you today.He will carry you and He will be giving all the way!  Share those gifts with your family...when you rise up in the morning, while you go about your day, and when you lie down at night to sleep.  Poet Ann Ruth Schabacker wrote, "Each day comes bearing gifts, untie the ribbons"...yes, untie the ribbons and live!

"From the rising of the sun, to its setting, the name of the Lord is to be praised!" Psalm 113:3, NASB

Here's to the journey...be watching for God's gifts!

Cynthia

 "Making Memories That Will Last"

December 2, 2011

 

Many of you know that in a week, my husband and I will give our precious daughter to a wonderful man to be married.  Oh, it has come so quickly!  It seems like yesterday that she was toddling around, with her two brothers, without a care in the world!  She is 22 (and 1/2, she would say) and these years have been such a blessing!  God has truly been with us as we have parented our children and He has been so faithful to His promises.  We began praying for our children's spouses when they were just toddlers and now God has brought one of those prayers to fruition in Bethany and Richard.

I know I wrote about traditions last week, but today I want to remind you of memories and of how important it is to count those remembrances in relation to how God has blessed!  I believe that as we praise God and count our blessings, He loves to hear how thankful we are that He has been faithful to those things we have asked for.  I would like to list for you the things I am most thankful for in my daughter today.  And, I want you to know these are things I have prayed for all of these 22 years.

1) I prayed that she would be beautiful from the inside...since she was three years old, I have reminded her that beauty is in your heart.  And, as I prayed, I asked God to reveal that to her.

2) I prayed that at an early age, she would come to know the Lord Jesus Christ as her personal Savior.  She did come to know Him at age 6. 

3) I prayed that she would develop a sweet spirit and sincere love for others.  I love to see her as she interacts with people.  God certainly has given her a heart for others!

4) I prayed that God would grow her in maturity and independence and that she would be able to live on her own.  He did that as she moved away to Auburn and had her own place...God was faithful to give her wisdom and knowledge to do what she needed to do to get an education.

5) I prayed that one day she would meet a man who would and could love her as much as her mom and dad.  And, that he would possess a spirit of love that can only come from God...an unselfish and "always giving" kind of love!  God answered.

I am not writing these things to get you to look at my daughter and "Ooo and Ahh"!  I am writing these things to encourage you, as parents, and to let you know that when you are constant with your prayers for your children, God will bring those things to pass...He is faithful!

As for the memories...God wants us to recall and remember the memories.  For it is through memories that we are encouraged and growth happens in our own lives!  We have so enjoyed the past 6 months with our daughter as she moved back home after graduation.  It has been such a delight to have grown-up conversations with her, to watch her as she has communicated with her dad, as she has still had some very "childlike" moments...like running in and giving her morning hugs and saying, "Hey Momma!"  And, I have loved sharing advice, with her, that will help her as a wife.

The big day is coming and I praise God in knowing that He, our Almighty Father, will be there as He unites them in marriage!  I praise Him because I know it is His plan!

Here's to the journey...I pray that it is precious for you!

Cynthia

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"Treasures in Tradition"

November 25, 2011

As we begin this beautiful holiday season, I am reminded of just how much tradition means in families...especially to children!  You just try to change the way you celebrate the season and see how your family reacts!  Whether you open gifts on Christmas Eve, whether you go to grandmother's house for breakfast on Christmas morning, whether you always read the Christmas story, or whether you save most of your shopping until Christmas Eve...my sweet husband always loves to do that...if you try to change tradition, I am sure you will hear about it!

About seven years ago, I began thinking about my children and wondering just what they would remember and want to carry on as they got older and began having their own families.  Immediately, I had a great thought...what about a tradition of "Soup Night", held a few evenings before Christmas Eve.  I would serve two of their favorite soups and invite my sister and her family.  Would you believe...it was a huge success?  What a wonderful event...no stress, no pressure, just enjoying family and spending quality time together...lots of laughter and lots of love!  And, now, every year, they begin asking, early in the season, "When's Soup Night, when's Soup Night?"  Even as they were away at college, they would call and ask.  It has become a tradition and a very special time for our family!  Almost every year, too, Frosty makes a surprise visit...now, just ask me about that!

I am convinced that there is a great treasure of value and worth in tradition!  And, wow, can you imagine the memories you are making...those times you will always remember?  What will your children remember from their childhood? What traditions will they want to carry forth from generation to generation?  And, what traditions will they make for their own families?

Go ahead, this year...start a tradition and make it stick!  You will be glad you did and the value of it will be immeasurable!

Here's to the journey...life is full of treasures!

Cynthia

"A Heart of Thanksgiving"

November 18, 2011

A few months ago, I was making one of my usual trips to Walmart for groceries.  And, as I drove in front of the store, I came upon the crossover where customers were making their way into and out of the store.  This particular time, there was a large group of them busily going about their day...probably 8 or 10 of them.  As they crossed, it seemed like they were just taking their time...not one looked back...not one acknowledged the drivers who had stopped to let them pass...until, the last one crossed over...and, just as I began to move my car again, she turned around and thanked me, with a beautiful smile and a certain kindness that just seemed to resonate. Instantly, God pricked my heart and reminded me of the story of Jesus and the ten lepers...how, because of His love and mercy for them, He healed them. However, if you remember the story like I do, only one came back and thanked Jesus for his healing. (Luke 17:11-19)

What an impact that customer made on me as she turned and thanked me!  I can only imagine how Jesus felt when one of the healed lepers came back to thank Him!  Don't you know He was disappointed?  Don't you know He was sad that they did not realize the miracle and take time to thank the God who made them whole again?

Why is it that we have such a hard time with thankfulness?  With all that the Lord does for us and has done for us, we are still prideful and selfish people.  We ask and ask and ask, yet, many times forget to say "thank you, God!"  I am convinced that a heart full of gratitude conveys a strong testimony for God's faithfulness and a heart full of gratitude produces a Christ-like attitude.  When we are thankful, He is able to move with greater ease and do the work He needs to do in our lives.  His faithfulness should cultivate thankfulness in the lives of us, His children!

One of the most important things you can teach your children and model, for them, is a thankful heart!  For, with that kind of attitude, you will see them live victoriously and be able to handle many of the circumstances that will come their way in life!  It's just plain and simple...a grateful heart makes all the difference!  And, remember, a "thank you", even to a stranger, may be the witness God chooses to use in the life of another.

"It is a good thing to give thanks unto the Lord; and to sing praises unto His name!" Psalm 92:1

"Here's to the journey...give thanks along the way!"

Cynthia

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"Who Shall Separate Us from the Love of Christ?"

November 11, 2011

I remember it well!  My mother was a strong disciplinarian and my sisters and I got our fair share of "switchings"...yes, that form of discipline that is almost unheard of anymore!  Before I would get a switching for something I had done or for not obeying my mom or dad, Mother would always say, "Now, you know I love you and this is why I have to switch you!"  I remember thinking, "Wow, this is love?  I mean, really!"  Yet, in the depth of my heart I knew what she said was true. You could not and still can not find a mother who loves her three daughters more than my mom.  And, as the years went by and I grew and matured, I realized just how fair and consistent my mother was with her discipline and punishment to her girls.  She always reassured us of her love by saying, "No matter what you do, no matter what comes our way, remember, I will always be your mother and I will always love you!" Through the years and to this day, she has always been a wonderful example to me, as a mother of three.

The love a parent has for his/her child can very closely be compared to the love of God.  For, He is our Creator, our Sustainer, the Lover of our souls, and nothing can separate us from Him or that love He has for His children. Romans 8:35-39 says it beautifully, "Who shall separate us from the love of Christ?  Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or danger or sword?  As it is written: 'For your sake we face death all day long, we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.'  No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us.  For, I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus, our Lord!" (NAS)  Do you have that kind of deep, deep love for your children?  Yes, of course you do! Your child is a part of you and nothing can change the fact that he/she belongs to you and that you are responsible for parenting that precious gift God has entrusted to you!  Nothing can separate you from your child! He/she may stray, he/she may rebel, he/she may look at you and say, "You don't love me!"  But, nothing can change the fact that he/she is yours!

And, with that...as a parent you must stay strong and determined about the course that is set before you with your child.  Hopefully, he/she will be with you for 17 or 18 years before he/she heads off to college or decides to be totally independent.  It seems like a long time, but, my friend, it is not!  It will come as quickly as the dawn and you will be asking, " Where did the time go?"  Ask God to keep you strong, ask Him to help you be consistent and fair with your discipline and with the matters that will arise in your home...He will guide you, He will give you discernment and He will honor your honest and faithful efforts!

Remember, as your child belongs to you...you, as well, belong to God and nothing can separate you from His love!

Here's to the journey...cherish the treasure!

Cynthia

"Will You Choose Wisely?"

November 4, 2011

In this day of worldly influence and so many choices to be made, I want to ask the question: "Who will you serve?"  Is your home full of the Lord or is it full of the world?  Have you made the choice to serve God and only God alone?  I remember asking myself that question many years ago, as a young mother.  I have always wanted the very best for my children and have worked hard to try to provide, for them, everything they needed.  However, through the years, there have been many moments and experiences that have caused me to ask myself, "Really, what is most important?" And, there is no doubt, every time, I have answered, "The most important thing in the lives of my children is that they come to know the Lord and have a full relationship with Him!"

I love the story of Joshua, who after leading the Israelites into the promised land, took a strong stance in serving the Lord.  He challenged his people to make a conscious choice, a precise decision to put away the other gods in their lives and serve the one and only Almighty God!  In Joshua 24:15, he speaks with great conviction saying, "If serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your forefathers served beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living.  But, as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord."  

Parents, let me encourage you to take that stance...no matter where you are with the Lord and living for Him, it is not too late to make that choice!  If you need to make a fresh start, then do so...trust God...He will help you!  Start with a daily prayer and Bible study time. Sit down with your spouse and make the decision together.  Give your children new instructions about how it is going to be in your home.  Share with them that you have decided things need to change! Tell them that you want their lives to be strong in the Lord and that you want your family to make a difference for Him in this world!  Then, lead them with love and gentleness!  Take one day at a time and watch God work as you are faithful to Him and the choice you have made to serve Him!  You will be amazed!

So, will you choose wisely?  Will you serve God and God alone?

Here's to the journey...the choice is yours!

Cynthia

"My Light is Broken!"

October 28, 2011

"And God said, 'Let there be light,' and there was light.  God saw that the light was good, and He separated the light from the darkness." Genensis 1:3,4

I really enjoy teaching music to the children in the preschool.  We have such fun times and it gives me an opportunity to spend time with them and get to know them better.  As I was teaching one of the younger three-year-old classes the other morning, I heard an exclamation from one of the children that really made me think.  I said, "Now, hold up your finger, as your little light, so we can sing, 'This Little Light of Mine'".  They all proceeded to hold up their index fingers, except for one little boy, who looked at me, with sad eyes, and proclaimed, "Mrs. Burke, my little light is broken!"  It was such a sad expression and really caught me off guard.  I looked at him and said, "Well, let's just fix it!"  At that, he lifted his finger very slowly.  I do realize that he just might not have wanted to hold his finger up, but also, I realize, too, that his little heart might have felt sad that morning.  That expression made me think of how sometimes, we, as adults, are not sensitive to our children's feelings.  Sometimes, in our lives, we even forget to show the light that the Lord has called us to show.  And, sometimes, it's just simply that we don't take the time to find out why they are sad or unhappy.

Children have such a way of showing their feelings.  I hope that, as a parent, you are always praying for sensitivity to that and for a great deal of patience in dealing with those feelings.  We must caution ourselves against "breaking their spirit" and "wounding their hearts".  In Ephesians 6:4, the Lord speaks to fathers, but it also can mean moms, too, "Fathers, do not exasperate your children, instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord."  You certainly want your child to feel free to share his/her feelings and to know that you care about their inmost thoughts.  When, you sense that your child is unhappy, sad or that something is bothering him/her, be sure that you ask about it.  Don't just let it go as if it does not matter.

I, also, hope that as Christian parents, you will help your child focus on the light that the Lord has given to shine in our lives.  As they recall God's Word, it will help them shine the light He has given to shine in their lives. There are so many examples and expressions of light in the Bible.  "The Lord is my Light, and my salvation - whom shall I fear?" Psalm 27:1.  When Jesus spoke to the people in John 8:12, He reminded them, "I am the Light of the world.  Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life."

I encourage you to take the time to know your child, share his/her feelings, and help your child shine the light in his/her life that will be a testimony for the Lord!

Here's to the journey..."Let it Shine"!

Cynthia

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"But, I Didn't Mean To!"

October 21, 2011

How many times have you heard that?  "But Mommy, I didn't mean to!"  Your child hurts another child, disobeys or gets in trouble with you for something he did or did not do...and there it comes, sounding as innocent as a lamb...Wow!  Their little hearts and minds seem so frail and so unpretentious, but it all comes down to this...we were all born with sin in our hearts.  Even, when a preschooler plays with his/her playmate and gets a little too active, things just seem to happen.  So, how do we help our children understand the responsibility and accountability of their ways?

Proverbs 16:2 says, "All a man's ways seem innocent to him, but motives are weighed by the Lord."

I believe there are certain stages of helping a child understand this principle in his/her life.  For a preschooler, he/she has to be reminded over and over how easy it is to hurt someone, how to obey and listen, how to be safe crossing the street and it goes on and on.   You have to tell them over and over about the little chores they are to accomplish at home.  You have to remind your elementary-age child to do homework over and over on a daily basis and wash his/her hands before dinner.  Then, they come into this middle-school age stage and just seem to not remember anything at all!  They will begin having what I call "sarcasm moments" or "whatever moments"!  You will have to sit down and have lots of those "little heart to hearts"...you know what I mean?  Then, you will think you have it made and all of a sudden...they come into the teen years...oh my, now that's another story!  You will feel like you are teaching everything over again, but yet, you have to "let go"?  How are you supposed to do that?  You mean you can't just bubble them up and not let them out of the house?

Again, I want to remind you how important it is to spend time with your child...lots of it...quality time, not just a minute here or a minute there.  I feel very convicted about the fact that our world just seems to let things go and not have accountability for our actions.  In spending time with your child, you will have opportunites to share your heart and your convictions with your child.  It will also develop a relationship of trust with your child where he/she will want to talk to you about their life, about their feelings, their thoughts and as they mature, their own convictions and beliefs.  You will do well to hold your child accountable, and be sure you deal with day to day issues as they come about.  If your child gets away, even one time, with hurting another friend's feelings or taking something that does not belong to him/her, disobeying, or any other offense, then next time, he will feel like it was not a "big deal" and his actions may be worse. 

Parenting is challenging, but, let me encourage you...it is so worth the effort!  Trust the Lord for wisdom, guidance and discernment.  Surround your child with godly people and friends.  Spend time on your personal relationship with your child, as well, as training your child to grow up as a child of God...reading God's Word, praying daily and loving those around him/her!  As your child grows, help them to know that God honors the pure motives of their heart!  Remind them that God knows when "we mean it or not"!  The bottom line is: God will hold your child accountable (when he/she reaches that age of accountability), so teach him/her that principle and be an example yourself!

Here's to the journey!

Cynthia

"Teaching Our Children to Face Their Enemies"

October 14, 2011

Just last night, I heard the story of a twelve year old girl who took her life because she was bullied.  Today, more and more, we are hearing stories like this.  And, it really weighs heavy on my heart. We ask ourselves the question: "why"? Why would any young person take their own life because another young person bullied them?  It seems so foreign to me, as an individual, yet, I know that I grew up with a full understanding of love...from my parents, my church and my friends.  So, how can we teach our children to face their enemies, the "bullies" in their lives, with courage, patience and an attitude of "turning the other cheek"?  Today is a day when we must even teach this principle to our preschoolers...of course, in a way that their little minds can understand.  As parents, we must constantly prepare our children for this world we live in...a world full of darkness...a world where they must learn to rise above the evil schemes of Satan himself!

We all know the story of Joseph and his brothers...how they hated him so much that they sold him into slavery.  I think we all know the reason they hated him...their father loved Joseph much more than his brothers and showed that partiality in the home over and over.  Genesis 37:4 records these words: "When his brothers saw that their father loved him more than any of them, they hated him and could not speak a kind word to him."  

First, parents, if there is more than one child in the home, you must guard against showing favoritism or partiality. That can be hard at times, for children's personalities are so different and you may have one child that is harder to teach and thus, harder to discipline.  However, it should never affect your love for that child or the way in which you "parent" that child.  I believe that if the proper love and discipline is shown in the home, your child will be much more capable of standing up in a heartless world, at times, even with their friends, acquaintances and classmates.

Second, we must teach our children that there will be times when they will face trouble, heartache...times when even their "friends" may turn away from them.  Everything will not seem like it is "fair" to your child.  Teach him to stand up and be strong...focusing on his own strengths and gifts, yet, relying on God to be right there with him/her. Give your child positive feedback and build up his/her self image.  You might remind your child that even Jesus faced persecution...in fact, in today's world, I would call some of those who persecuted him, "bullies", wouldn't you?  Psalm 37:8-9: "Do not fret when men succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes.  Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret-it only leads to evil.  For, evil men will be cut off, but those who hope in the Lord will inherit the land."

Third, teach your child and encourage him/her to let someone know if there is "bullying" going on...even if he/she sees it happening to someone else.  In this day and time, we must teach our children that it is ok to speak up.  Talk to them about how they can approach their teachers and their leaders in church if this kind of behavior surfaces. Most of all, let them know that you, as mom or dad, are always there...you want to hear their problems, their thoughts...the things that bother them.  Your child should never feel lonely in the sense that they have no one to talk to.

Fourth, teach your child that above all, "love" conquers!  Help them through difficult situations by showing them how to love their enemies...pray for them, have them over for play dates and involve those children in your child's life. You will find that probably the thing they need the most is "love"!  "Love must be sincere.  Hate what is evil; cling to what is good!" (Romans 12:9).

Fifth, remind your child of Romans 8:31: "If God is for us, who can be against us?"  In God's time, He will take care of the unjust, the unrighteous, those who have carried out their evil schemes...leave it to Him!  And, His love and your love in the life of your child will make the difference...just watch and see!

Here's to the journey...keep on "keeping on"!

Cynthia

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"God's House"

October 7, 2011

Every week at the preschool, we go to Chapel, in the sanctuary, on Thursdays and Fridays.  It is such a joyful time! We sing praises to the Lord, we pray and we have a simple object lesson or Bible story.  It is so delightful to see the expressions on the faces of those boys and girls.  They are like "little sponges"...soaking up everything you say!  One of our younger three classes just get beside themselves when they come.  Some of them have just turned three and others are still two.  On chapel day, their teacher, Mrs. Lindsey, tells them that they are going to "God's House"!  You can only imagine what their little minds and hearts are thinking and feeling.  "God's House"... really? WOW!  I believe it was our first chapel day this fall when one little girl looked up at Mrs. Lindsey and holding her hands out asked, "Where is He?"  When Mrs. Lindsey replied, "Who?"  The little girl quickly exclaimed, "God!" Oh my! What profound thinking!  You know children always want to see things tangibly...mostly because they are just plain curious. However, I am kinda like that little one...if I am going to someone's house, I want to see them, too!

So, I ask you, parents, how do we help our children understand that you can not see God physically?  How do we help them understand that you simply trust and know that He is always there?  How can we clear up their thinking?  I am convinced that as they see you, their loving mom and dad, practicing the "presence of God", they will start to put it all together.  As they watch you trust Him through day to day trials and living, they will begin to want it, too.  You have the wonderful opportunity to lead your child in this area of their life.  Just think about all the things your child can see...the beauty of creation, the human body that He created, the provision of care He gives.  And, how about His Word?  Don't you think you can help your child understand that His Word was given to those writers so many years ago...from His own heart?

I want to suggest several things that you can do that will help your child "practice the presence of God".

• "Pray without ceasing!" (1 Thessalonians 5:17)  Remind your child that he/she can always exhibit an attitude of prayer...all day...no matter what comes their way.

• "Be thankful!" (1 Thessalonians 5:18)  Teach your child to be thankful In everything...so that his/her heart will not grow hard and bitter at the things of this world.  Develop a sense of thankfulness!  Let it permeate your home.

• "Have a joyful heart!"  Help your child understand that truly "life is not fair" but God wants His children to rise above it!  Trust God for the victory!

• Remind your child that God can teach him/her all through the day as they are aware that He is with them!

• Take time to share about God in your home.  Make a habit of it so that you won't forget to do so.  Be a good example of this to your children.  Don't be afraid for them to see you praying or reading God's Word.  In fact, they need to see it...they need to know it is a vital part of your life!

• Always pray with your children.  Talk about God's promise when He said that He is always with us!  (Matthew 28:20).

• Talk about what you have seen God do in your life and in the lives of others.  For, as we are aware of His presence, we will stand in awe of the things we see Him doing!

Practice His presence and you will soon see the difference it will make in your life, as well as, your family's lives!  As we seek Him, we will draw nearer to Him.  And, you know what?  He will draw nearer to us, too!

I am praying for you as Paul prayed for the Ephesians in the church at Ephesus. (Ephesians 3:16-17).  His words were this: "I pray that out of His glorious riches He may strengthen you with His power through His Spirit, in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith.  And, I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge...that you may be filled in the measure of all the fullness of God."  Amen and Amen!

Here's to the journey...may "God's House" be your home!

Cynthia

 "Celebrate!"

September 30, 2011

Yesterday, I had the wonderful opportunity of attending a first grade birthday party at the park.  Wow, it had been a long time since I had been around that many first graders!  They were so full of life and so much fun!  All of the laughing and giggling made my soul rejoice!  I was surrounded by such precious creatures!  As, I stood back and watched them, I was amazed at how they just "made" their own fun, how they interacted with one another in such an unselfish way, how easily they laughed with one another and just seemed to celebrate life itself!  I wish that would not be lost as they grow up and mature.  But, somehow, they start noticing things about themselves and others that just seems to take away some of the fun and some of the celebrating!  They get stuck on things of this world that do not matter.  They start thinking more selfishly and thus, lose that sweet childlike innocence that is so beautiful and so created by God!

In Zephaniah 3:14-17, the Lord speaks strongly as He reminds His people that He has conquered their enemies and He is in their court...and get this...He is rejoicing over them with joy!  "The Lord, your God, is in your midst, a Victorious Warrior.  He will exult over you with joy, He will be quiet in His love, He will rejoice over you with shouts of joy!"

How can we have homes of rejoicing?  How can we celebrate life with our children?  Are we reminded that "this is the day the Lord has made, I will rejoice in it?" (Psalm 118:24)  Every day does have problems and trials of its own, yet, we must learn to rise above and focus on the more important things of life...not all the "stuff" that weighs us down. Even in the midst of the mundane of day to day living, we must find times to celebrate and rejoice in.  We must laugh a lot! Is there anything wrong with just being plain silly? We must "dance" together!  I mean, really...have you ever just grabbed your child by the hand and danced?  We must delight in the Word of the Lord together!  Make a habit of finding those scriptures that show God's exuberance over us, as His children, and delight in them.

As I think again about the birthday party, I was so thrilled to see that those precious little ones were so thrilled about life that the cares of the world did not matter.  Really, they just did not know anything but fun and being together!  If you have seen that kind of celebrating in the life of your family and especially, in the life of your child, I challenge you to capture it and keep it going for as long as you can!  And, when God gives you a spiritual victory, don't be afraid to shout it from the rooftop and dance before God with great joy!

Here's to the journey..."I hope you dance"!

Cynthia

 

"Are Our Homes Hungry for the Things of This World or Hungry for God?"

September 23, 2011

As our children get older and begin to make their own opinions and choices, where is their focus?  Have we taught them that the things of this earth are only temporal and that it is eternity that matters?  I see a serious leaning toward the temporal things of this life...even in children.  It seems to be all about having the newest toy, the most popular phone device or wearing the newest fashion trend.  How do we combat the ways of the world and what it puts in front of our children as being the most important things in their life?  How do we remain spiritually focused so that our children will truly have eternal prospective as they grow and mature?  How do we help our children develop a hunger for God?  This is a question I have pondered many times as I have raised my children.

Experts tell us that children who grow up with extreme materialism will grow to have an unhealthy self-love.  They will develop a nature that has a hard time sharing and even loving others.  First, we must understand what children really need.

• Children need to connect.  Your child will become lonely, depressed and even angry if he is given too many things and not enough of your time and love.

• Children need satisfaction.  The problem with too much materialism is that it is only a temporary high.  After your child gets tired of those things or has too much, he crashes and wants more...thus, developing an unhappy cycle which leads to true dissatisfaction.

• Children need to matter and know they matter.  Children who have too much or get too many things will find themselves always wanting and become known as "what they have", not "who they are".  They will grow to have a feeling of thinking they have a right to be served and are entitled to this or that.  Then, we have produced a very selfish and self-centered child.

• Children need to stand out.  Children really want to be special and you really want your children to be special. They want to be respected and looked up to from their peers.  One of the biggest concerns of us, as parents, is that we want our children to have a strong self esteem.  Therefore, as parents, we must help them understand the "big" picture and that is that God wants so much more for them than "things".  He wants their heart and wants them to focus on a future that is headed toward eternity!

The verse that comes to mind for me is simply put in God's Word: "Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added unto you."  Matthew 6:33.  Let's make a commitment to invest in the spiritual welfare of our children. There's a wealth of it in God's kingdom and He wants our children to be "kids of the kingdom"!

Here's to the journey...look upward!

Cynthia

 

"What Are You Really Spending on Your Child?"

September 16, 2011

I overheard a conversation, one day, between two young moms.  They were having a serious conversation about their homes and what they thought were the most important things for their children.  One mom said, "Well, I have always felt like if I could just give my children everything they wanted, they would be happy and love me!"  "Not me!", the other mom exclaimed, "My parents gave me everything, materially, that I could ever want but they were never there for me!  I was miserable!  I wanted time with my parents so much and never could get their attention!"  WOW!  What is that conversation telling you?  What is it telling me?

What do we really spend on our children?  Do we spend all of our energy running so that they can really be someone in society? Do we spend all of our money so they can have everything they want and think they need?  Or, do we spend our time wisely on them, knowing that there is nothing more important than to give of ourselves to love and teach them?  These are hard questions to answer.  We all want to give our children everything.  Some parents even go to the extremes to "lavish" their wealth on their children.  However, I am convinced that if you were to ask one adult after another, what were the most important times in their lives as far as their relationship with their parents, they would say that it was the simple times when they were literally just spending time together.  You would not hear about fancy dinners at expensive restaurants, shopping trips where money was spent so freely nor big vacations that thrilled beyond their wildest dreams.  You would hear about those times spent quietly just sharing...under the starry sky at night, by the fireplace on a cold winter's eve, in the swing under the shade tree in the spring and making s'mores over the campfire in the woods.

Time is a treasure...a precious commodity!  And, it flies so quickly!  You know that even on your busy days, you have to plan to have quiet sharing time with your children.  You have to plan quiet study time with your Lord.  You have to plan your weekends so that you and your family can just have "down time".

So, let's think about this together.  Is someone else raising your children?  Are you spending too much time and money just trying to get ahead so your family can really look important to the world?  Are you so busy that you think you can substitute your time with material things for your children and it really won't matter that you are not there to see them grow up?

Today, on this beautiful morning, I am reminded about the times that my children, who are now adults, remember the most!  And, you know what?  It is those times when we just "chilled out" together.  It might have been just "snuggling" under a blanket and sharing about the day.  Or it might be the cold nights we spent in sleeping bags out in the woods. Maybe even a short walk after supper in the evenings.  It's fun to hear them share now...with me...those times they remember the most...and guess what?  It only cost me my time!  That's the most important thing you can spend on your children.  So, parents, I challenge you...give your time...it is a precious treasure!

Here's to the journey...spend it well!

Cynthia

"Is Your Child Getting the Best of You?"

September 9, 2011

 

It's been a crazy, fast-paced morning...getting the children up and ready for school, packing lunches, being sure that they each have their homework and supplies loaded in their backpacks.  Then, your youngest decides to just throw a temper tantrum as you are trying to get out the door!  You look around at him and say, "Get up and come on!  You are going to be late for school!"  You really tried to say it very calmly but it didn't work.  So, the second time, it comes a little louder with a much firmer tone!  When that doesn't work, you simply grab him by the arm and shout as loud as you can, "Did you hear me?  I mean NOW!"  There is silence and he gets up slowly and walks out the door.  Your other two are already in the car and exhausted, just from seeing and hearing the confrontation.  When you get in the driver's seat, they just look at you and roll their eyes.  WOW!  What just happened?  Really, what did just happen?  It's pretty simple and really quite sad!  Your youngest child just got the best of you and your two older children lost a little more respect for you, as their mom!

I have noticed that there is a huge problem with children just not listening to and obeying their parents!  It is really nothing new, yet it seems to be becoming a "way of life" for our children.  When you and I, as parents, should only have to call their name once or ask them to do something once, it takes two, three times to get it done...and sometimes they do not even respond at all.  In homes today, the authority figure has been lost and parental respect has simply been "thrown out the door"! 

So, what does God's Word really say about discipline?  He talks a lot about discipline...for us, as His children and for parents, as well!  When I look at His Word, I see that He looks at discipline as a strong act of love!  Hebrews 12:6, "For those whom the Lord loves, He disciplines." Proverbs 3:12, "The Lord corrects those He loves, just as a father corrects a child in whom he delights." Proverbs 22:15, "Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; the rod of discipline will remove it far from him." Proverbs 19:20, "Listen to counsel and accept discipline, that you may be wise the rest of your days."  Proverbs 13:24, "He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him, disciplines him diligently." Proverbs 4:1, "Hear, O sons, the instruction of a father, and give attention that you may gain understanding."

Truly, we all want our children to succeed.  We all want them to be loved and admired by their peers and their instructors.  We want them to be looked upon as orderly individuals and ones who can handle life.  We know that as they grow into adults (and that will happen sooner than you think), we want them to be self-disciplined people and ones whom the society will see as that!  So, why don't we discipline our children consistently?  Many times, I believe, we just think it is easier to let it go.  Sometimes, we want to be "popular", yes "popular", even with our own children. We want them to "like" us!  We want to be their friend!  Well, all that is well and good, if you can still be looked upon as the authority and with respect, I mean "real" respect...a respect where they don't question what you say, a respect where they answer the "first" time, a respect where they hold you up "high" as very important in their lives, a respect where they know you know "your " place!  Listen, parents, I firmly believe that when I stand before Almighty God one day, I will be held accountable for everything I said and did in parenting my three!  Yes, just think about that!

So, make some plans to discipline your child...with God's guidance, on your knees asking God to lead, by His Word and with your spouse...agree on what needs to happen!  It is not too late!!  And, your child will love you for it! He/she may not smile while it's happening, but your child will love and respect you for being who you are supposed to be! Guess what?  Your child will grow, too, in knowing how much you really love him/her!

Don't let your child get the best of you...go for the best in all of you!!  And, God will honor you for it!

Here's to the journey!

Cynthia

"Lazy Hands or Diligent Hands?

September 2, 2011

How many times have you seen a discouraged mom or dad who just can't get their children to do anything?  They live exhausted lives on a daily basis because, not only do they work outside the home, but come home to put in another shift before closing their eyes to sleep at night!  Today's parent is most commonly seen as a recreation director, entertainer or just a "plain old" chauffeur. Parents should really take on the role of loving taskmasters who delight in seeing their children achieve and really get things done...making great strides for progress!  Children really need to learn how to work!  There is nothing wrong with that!  When a child works and sees himself making progress, there is a sense of pride and gratification that takes place in his/her mind and heart. That's a healthy thing, too, parents!

It really bothers me when I see a child labeled "lazy".  I have seen many children try to succeed, even at the youngest ages, yet, they just can not "follow through" with their plan or idea...even in preschool play times.  I believe that God created every human being with a natural drive to achieve, excel, dream and succeed in life!  How is it then that some children have more drive than others?  What has happened along the way?

What can we, as parents, do to help our children "move on", to really get things done and succeed with their endeavors?

1) We must recognize their skills and abilities.  Give them challenges at home with small tasks and chores.  And, don't let them just get by with not accomplishing what you have asked them to do.  You, as the taskmaster, must see it through, also.

2) Help your child understand stress and how to cope with it.  Children who are under heavy stress, at home or at school, do not perform well.

3) Help your child manage his/her time and let them know what you expect.  Set a schedule for homework time, as well as, chore time.

4) Give your family a healthy balance of quality work and play.  And, even play time needs to be more than sitting in front of the television or playing video games.

5) If you have more than one child, you may want to create a little bit of competition at home...see who can get their homework or chores done faster?  Be sure, though, that this does not create pressure with your children.

6) Praise their successes!  Negative comments will always slow them down, but praise and positive feedback is a huge plus for diligence in their lives!

7) Give your child the opportunity to succeed!  Do not do everything for him/her.  Let them use their hands, their minds, their bodies to get the work done!  You will be glad you did!  And, you know what?  Your child will feel like he/she is ten feet tall!!

8) Staying busy and having diligent hands will keep your child out of trouble, too!  My mom used to say, "An idle mind is the devil's workshop!"  Oh, how true!  When a child is bored or becomes lazy, he/she will find something to do and many times it can be trouble!! 

Give your children great role models as moms and dads!  You will find that your child will be thankful one day for the strong work ethic you have helped him/her achieve!  And, all the while, you will enjoy the rewards!!

"Lazy hands make for poor, but diligent hands bring wealth." Proverbs 10:4

Here's to the journey...time is moving on!

Cynthia

"Into the Light"

 August 26, 2011

When I was younger, it was always fun to be on a trip in the car and go through a tunnel.  I loved staying in the dark and then suddenly coming into the light!  It was fun to just see how long the darkness would last!  And, do you remember having your mom or dad blow the horn while you were in the tunnel?  The echo of the horn was so cool-sounding in the tunnel!  I can't help but compare the tunnel to the life of a person who does not know Christ...how dark it must be! And, then when that person comes to know the Lord, there is suddenly light...light at the end of the tunnel!  "God is light, in Him there is no darkness!" I John 1:5.

The world is full of darkness and our children will experience a lot of that darkness if we, as their parents, do not lead them to the Lord and out of that darkness!  I have always loved good movies and wholesome TV shows, however, you can not watch any TV these days without being bombarded with Satan's ways and ungodly morals.  It does not take long for a child to get totally immersed in spending time in front of the television.  And, before you know it, he/she has made a habit out of just turning the TV on without even thinking about it!  My mother used to call the TV a "one-eyed monster" and my sisters and I thought that was absurd.  However, as I have grown, matured and raised my own children, I have realized that she was probably right!  We must watch what our children become enthralled with for their entertainment.  We must instruct them in the way of the Lord and the light He provides for their lives.

Do you direct your children toward the light?  Do you consciously look for the light in this world of darkness?  God's Word is full of stories and examples of how God used light.  The light guided the Israelites at as they ran from Pharaoh and his army.  Even when God caused a plague of darkness to cover the land of Egypt, no one except the Israelites had light.  Yet, God provided it for His people wherever they lived. (Exodus 10 and 14)  In David's Song of Praise found in Psalm 22, he gives praise for the light  "You are my lamp, O Lord; the Lord turns my darkness into light."

We must  positively influence our children toward the light...providing for them a home full of light, a home full of "openness" and love, a life that will radiate with God's light and salvation.  We must teach them to follow their convictions.  When they come to know the Lord, they will know when the Holy Spirit is convicting them of those things that are darkness in their lives.  "The Lord is my light and my salvation-whom shall I fear?" Psalm 27:1

Think about it when you are out and about..racing through your day...are you experiencing light or are you immersed in the darkness?  Has the Light invaded your soul?  Has the Light taken you from darkness into the light?  Do you know the difference?

"The Lord is God, and He has made His light shine upon us." Psalm 118:27

Here's to the journey!

Cynthia

"There is a Time for Everything"

August 19, 2011 

 

Well, here we are again...beginning another school year and already rushing around like ants on an ant hill!  It is so intriguing to me how all of a sudden school begins and we all shift into "overdrive"!  I am already hearing words like, "I am tired" and "Our schedule is unbelievable!" Parents, what is wrong with this picture?  Don't you think we "overbook" our lives?  Don't you think we have a hard time prioritizing and remembering the most important things in the lives of our families?

I want to encourage you today as you read this blog!  I want to ask you some questions to seriously ponder for your family.  I want to help you think about scheduling the most important things for your family.  Those things in life that will make a difference with your children, those things that will give them peace and comfort as they walk through their school years, and mainly those things that they will remember as being "most important" to you, as their parents!

Let's consider the priorities...           

     1) Reclaim family mealtimes.  Look at your weekly schedule and decide which nights you "have" to go through the "drive-through" and which nights you will cook at home.  On those "cook at home" nights, be sure to let every family member know what time you will all gather at the table, turn the TV off, silence the cell phones and sit down together for a peaceful meal.  This time is so important.  Pray together. Talk about the happenings of the day.  Give each child a chance to share the most exciting thing that happened to them or the thing that they need help working out!  Include every member of the family.           

     2) Schedule some "downtime" every evening.  Even if you only have 10-15 minutes before bedtimes, take time to just "chill" with your children!  Part of this "downtime" could be studying the Bible and praying with your child...that's an "absolute" for each day!            

     3) Stay involved in church activities.  Be sure that you keep Sunday mornings free for worship and Bible study.  Your entire family needs this consistency in order to help keep their spiritual lives intact.  Then, pray about which other church activities your children should participate in.           

     4) Be careful about "overextending" your child's energy.  It is so important that you do not register your child for everything everybody else does!  By this I mean, maybe your child can really excel in just one extracurricular activity after school.  I am convinced that when a child is trying to do everything, he/she can not do any one thing with excellence.  Start by trying to figure out where his/her talents and gifts lie...is he/she athletic, is he/she musical, does he/she have that "stored up" energy that just needs to be let go in the afternoons?           

     5) Keep family outings on your calendar.  You don't have to take a fancy or expensive trip every season.  Your child will just enjoy short outings like, walks in the park, hiking and camping out one night, sitting in your backyard under the stars at night.  If you have an older child, take his/her to Starbucks for a private talk time.              

     6) Keep special occasions and holidays "special"!  Don't let birthdays and holidays become "hum-drum"!  Start traditions that will really mean something through the years.  About 7 years ago, I started having "Soup Night" about 3 nights before Christmas Eve, and now it is a tradition that all of our family enjoys and looks forward to each year.           
     7) Remember to give your children chores and little jobs around the house.  Moms and Dads need help, too, so give each child a job to do on a consistent basis.  Make sure these chores are ones that will really help you and hold your child accountable for these chores.  Even though you may hear a complaint from time to time, you will be instilling responsibility and pride in your child. It will help them to know that you are counting on them! 

I know there's a lot to think about here, but remember, your family is your most important treasure, other than your God and Savior! And, they need your utmost time and ability to give them a structured, well-planned life!  You can do it...with prayer, planning and consistency...you can do it!!  Don't let the world run over you!  Shift back down out of "overdrive" and have a great year!

Ecclesiastes 3: 1, 11 says it well: "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven.  He has made everything beautiful in His time."

Here's to the journey...enjoy it!

Cynthia

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August 15, 2011

"Do You Have an Undivided Heart?"

Ed, Bethany and I have just returned from a week-long visit to Lubbock, Texas...yes it was a long trip...17 hours in the car and 1015 miles...one way!  However, it was a wonderful, fun trip...full of great quality time and lots of much-needed rest!  Probably my favorite day on the whole trip was spent on a picnic in Lubbock's city park.  It is a beautiful, clean and very scenic park that just seems to roll on and on.  The Prairie Dog Farm is located there, at the top of a rise in the road.  We had really looked forward to seeing the prairie dogs.  We bagged up some fresh grapes to feed them and got out of the car to go over to the short wall that keeps them enclosed in their territory. Immediately, I was intrigued!  For, there on the dusty ground, which went on for several acres, there were these little creatures standing on their hind legs, barking for attention!  They knew we were there and they knew what they wanted...food and attention! There were actually families of these prairie dogs running around...even babies! After a few minutes of watching them, it was clear which children belonged to which family...they were playing with each other and at the same time, fighting over the grapes that we were throwing their way!  Then, all of a sudden, a tiny baby...I mean a tiny one...peeped its head out of its burrow!  It only took a second or two for him to know where the action was!  He came on out for a grape himself!  

I was so intrigued and curious about this farm of cute, funny little creatures that I have thought about them a good bit since that day!  Several things came to my mind: 

     1) It was clear which ones belonged to which family.

     2) It was obvious they had a defined mission...to get nourishment and to provide protection for their young!

     3) I could tell they knew their territory!

You may think this is a stretch, but I can not help but think about us, God's human creatures.  I wonder if we have that kind of focus and attention about our relationship with God?  Do we really care about our families?  Are we that obvious to the world about our love and protection for our families?  When people see us with our children, is there clear definition that we belong together?  And, do we protect our family so much so that those around us can see that our territory, our home, is consumed with an "undivided heart"?  An "undivided heart" for love, commitment and belonging...to God...to live with a total focus on Him?

Just think about it...does your family "look" like a family, do you "love" like a family, do you have a defined mission, do you know your territory...do you know your home?  And, better yet, do you have a clear focus that speaks of God and His heart...His alone?

"Teach me Your way, O Lord, and I will walk in Your truth; give me an undivided heart, that I may fear Your name." Psalm 86:11, NIV.

Here's to the journey!

Cynthia

August 5, 2011

"Have You Ever Seen a Rainbow?"

It was a beautiful spring afternoon and I was driving home from work.  We had just been blessed with one of those much-needed spring showers and the earth looked fresh and clean!  As I was driving down the highway, I looked up across the sky and there it was...the most beautiful and most complete rainbow I had ever seen!  I have seen rainbows before and they are always beautiful, but the ones I had seen before were usually very faint in color and I could only see part of the arch.  But, not this one!  I pulled over and looked and as I stretched my eyes across the sky, I could almost see the whole arch and the colors were so vivid!  "Now, that's a rainbow!", I said to myself.

As I reflect on that experience this morning, I can only imagine how Noah must have felt when he opened the door of the ark and walked out on dry land.  I can only imagine how he must have felt when God made the covenant with him...Genesis 9:13-16...God said, "I have set my rainbow in the clouds, and it will be the sign of the covenant between Me and the earth...never again will the waters become a flood to destroy all life...whenever I see the rainbow, I will remember the everlasting covenant between God and all living creatures."  What a beautiful promise! What a beautiful sign of God's faithfulness to His people!  How can we doubt God's love and provision for us when we see such as this? And, God said that it is an everlasting covenant, an everlasting promise!

I don't know about you, but for me I feel confident in God's strength and purpose in the rainbow.  When, I see a rainbow, I am reminded that He is there!  I am reminded that He is Almighty!  I am reminded that He never fails!  I am reminded to never give-up! Even when I have a disappointing time with one of my children...even when they make a choice that I know will bring hurt and pain in their life...even when I want to beg them to listen to me...I know God has a purpose for them.  And, in His time, in His working, in His plan for my children, the rainbow is still there!  God's promises are true!  There is no other promise man can make that even comes close to the promises of God!

So, I ask you today...have you ever seen a rainbow...no, I mean really seen a rainbow?

Here's to the journey!

Cynthia

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July 29, 2011

"The Art of Appreciation"

I remember it well!  I was six years old and we were having Christmas at my grandmother's house.  My grandmother always gave my two sisters and me the same gift.  As we counted to "three" and all opened our gifts, from her, at the same time, we were struck with great disappointment to see two pieces of fabric in the box.  Oh, my!  What was Granny thinking?  I mean we were just 6, 5 and 4 years old.  How could that be right?  I immediately burst into tears and exclaimed, "I don't want that!"  And, my sisters chimed in right along with me, of course!  Mother quickly reprimanded us and gave us the speech about gifts and that a gift is something someone wants you to have.  She said, "Granny knows what beautiful outfits this fabric will make and she knew you all had plenty of toys!  Now, all three of you go straight to the bedroom.  You are getting a switching!"  Well, we all got switched and then, Mother told us to go and apologize to Granny.  I learned a very important lesson that day!  In fact, that story is one I have always remembered!  No, it did not seem fair to three young children that they did not get what they wanted from Granny, but, then again, Granny had put a lot of thought into her gift.  Thus, began my road to "mastering" the art of appreciation.

As I ponder over that Christmas experience at Granny's, I am reminded of how much we have to work with our children on saying, "thank you" and learning the true art of appreciation.  What is appreciation?  It is recognizing the worth and value of something or someone.  And, it is also an expression of admiration and gratitude.  So, don't you think that teaching our children to master this art is of great importance to their success in life?  I guess you might say I am "old-fashioned", but, I believe that teaching "appreciation" is also a part of teaching "respect".  I have heard many a youngster say harsh and disrespectful things to their parents when their parents were giving their all and desiring for their children to have everything (and more) that they need.  It certainly could be that we, as parents, give our children too much! WOW!  What do you think about that?  Don't you think that there should be stages or levels of giving your child certain things? And, as those times roll around, maybe little by little your child is learning to appreciate what you do for him/her? Also, parents, it really is ok to say "no" to some of their wants and requests.

I believe children should have to learn to recognize what it takes to put food on the table, to put clothes on their backs and to just simply live in this world!  Don't be afraid to let your children know about the finances and how much it really takes to live.  And, at the appropriate time, let them have jobs and chores where they will make a little money and learn to manage it!  Believe me, when a child knows what it takes to live and truly appreciates what you do as their parents, it will make a huge difference in their "appreciation" level.  It will also increase their love and respect for you!

Now, since we are talking about gifts and appreciation, how long has it been since you thanked God and gave your appreciation to Him for Jesus and all of His blessings?  Do you think that we, as God's children, sometimes forget to appreciate Him and thank Him for what He has done for us, as our eternal Father?

"Thanks be to God, for His indescribable gift!" 2 Corinthians 9:15, NIV.

Here's to the journey!

Cynthia

July 22, 2011

"Praise or Criticism?"

 

I was really taken back from a conversation I had with a young mom just the other day!  She had a key role in a musical I was working with and had one of the most beautiful and unusual voices I have ever heard.  As we were standing backstage before the second performance, she told us that her mother had been in the audience on opening night, just the night before.  As she was talking about her mom, she made the statement: "For once, she did not say anything negative or critical about my performance...thank goodness!"  I just looked at her with an inquisitive expression.  Then, she added, "However, she did say she could tell my voice was hoarse!  Oh well, I guess that was negative, wasn't it?"  I stood there with a sinking feeling in my heart and said to her, "Well, maybe not!  You know, as parents, we always think our children have to be perfect and we notice everything!"  I was really trying to give this young mom a little bit of hope...maybe that her mom just wanted her to be the best she could be? However, in my heart, I sensed the feeling that she had experienced criticism, from her mom, in almost everything she had encountered along life's path!  Why can't we give words of encouragement, hope, healing and praise?

We all know that words can build up or tear down.  God calls us to encourage one another and build each other up as in 1 Thessalonians 5:11.  There are words of criticism that can be constructive and helpful, but we must choose the timing for those words and be sure that our words show just that...love and concern.  Any child who lives with constant criticism and never receives any praise, grows up with the feeling of defeat and of "never doing anything right"! He/she has a hard time overcoming obstacles and really having hope for their future! Many times, he/she will fall into depression and bitterness.  I am convinced that the child who receives praise at the appropriate times will be one who will listen to instruction and guidance much more freely!  I believe that praise in a child's life helps the parent have a stronger relationship with his/her child and gives them the liberty to guide with a stronger and more loving hand!  Most children thrive on hearing their parents say how proud they are or that they've done a good job!  It is so neat to see the face of a child light up when he has received approval...it just makes him/her want to do better! Don't hesitate...affirm your child with words of praise, affirmation and love!  

How do you think you would feel if you never felt God's hand upon your life...His hand of discipline, His hand of guidance and His affirmation that you have followed Him?  Don't you think that makes you more willing to listen and learn from Him?  Words of praise and affirmation will help you raise an obedient and confident child...and one who will love and respect you!  You can count on that!

"A wise man's heart guides his mouth, and his lips promote instruction.  Pleasant words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones." Proverbs 16:23, 24, NIV.

Here's to the journey!

Cynthia

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July 15, 2011

"And, while he was still young..."

 

How many times have you told your child, "Wait until you're older!" or "Well, let's think about it!  You are not quite old enough yet!"?  Many times, I think that we, as parents, do not realize our children can really have serious thoughts. And, that many times, they really can make some serious decisions about their lives.  Yes, there are many decisions that our children can not make at a young age.  However, do we believe that God really can speak to them...in their early years?

I was reading my Bible, the other day, and as I flipped through the pages of 2 Chronicles, several verses caught my attention and really pricked my heart.  The story was about King Josiah who became king at the age of eight.  The scriptures record that, "He did what was right in the eyes of the Lord. (34:2)  "In the eighth year of his reign, while he was still young, he began to seek God." (34:3)   As king, Josiah had to make some very hard and important decisions in Judah.  Those verses raised some questions in my heart: How can we encourage our children to think seriously about life at a young age?  How can we help them to think about God and His plan for their lives and their future?  First, we must be serious about providing a Christian home for our children.  We must be consistent about the whole family spending time together in God's Word and in prayer.  We should read stories in the Bible about how God used His people and how God spoke to them.  And, take the time to discuss those stories.  Ask your children questions that will prompt their thinking.  Be diligent in following up with questions and discussions that need answers (if you don't have them right away).  And, if you see that your child is confused about something he/she thinks God is saying to them, do not hesitate to arrange a time he/she can sit and talk with a minister or church leader in their lives.  Even yet, pray for a mentor in your child's life...someone you trust, someone you know follows the Lord.

I am reminded of a young boy who always talked about people in foreign countries and how he felt sympathy for their needs.  He was always interested in hearing from the missionaries after they made a trip to a foreign land.  He was also interested in home missions, as the church planned events like "backyard Bible clubs" and even, one time, took VBS "on the road".  He was always the first to sign-up and go! His parents never paid any attention to his thoughts and comments. They dismissed his feelings as just being "childlike" and felt that his feelings would pass.  When he was older, they literally made him go on to college and become a business man...a career they knew would make him a "good" living! And, it did!  However, he was never satisfied...for his heart still longed to share Jesus on the mission field to those who had never heard!

We must pay close attention to our children.  We must seek to know their thoughts and let them know we believe that God can speak to them.  God uses young people and He wants to use your child!  Ask God to raise your child up to be a strong leader for Him and be sure you are there to encourage them!  Moms and Dads, you should be your child's loudest and strongest cheerleader when you see God at work! They must know and feel your support!  For, while they are still young, God is shaping their future and you don't want them to miss it!

I am wondering...what would have happened in Judah if King Josiah had not acted "while he was still young"?

Here's to the journey!

Cynthia

July 8, 2011

"Whatever!"

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July 1, 2011

"Through the Eyes of a Child"

It was a busy fall that year...lots of school activities for the children and numerous choir rehearsals at the church...preparing for the Christmas program.  This particular year, we were doing a Bach cantata (yes, Johann Sebastian Bach, himself) and our minister of music had hired a string quartet to play with us.  As the pianist for the church, I had even been challenged to play the organ, using the harpsichord registrations, to give it the "Bach-era" style! And, it was a challenge...many hours of practice were spent at the keyboard learning those notes and preparing for that beautiful cantata!  I remember it well!  Ed and I would have conversations about the event.  He was in the choir, so he was learning all the bass vocal parts.  Many times at home, we would discuss the "strings" and how beautiful it was going to be!  What a worship service we were anticipating!  Then, it came...the afternoon of the final dress rehearsal before the program!  We loaded the children in the car and headed to my sister's house where they would stay, for a few hours, and then come to church for the program.  As we were driving along, I mentioned the "strings" once again and suddenly it hit our youngest son, who was then eight years old!  He took a deep breath, and with a loud burst, he exclaimed, "Oh man, I thought we were having a puppet show!"  It really hit me!  We all chuckled, of course, but I realized we had not completely conveyed to our children really what was going on! What we understood, as adults, was foreign to them!

Isn't it funny how children can perceive things so differently than we do?  There are so many different ideas, thoughts, and sometimes, even dreams "through the eyes of children"!  Through the years, as I have matured, I have often thought how wonderful it is to think like a child, to play like a child and to even love like a child!  As adults, we seem to lose so much of that!  As parents, we get so lost in the "parenting" and in the details of life that we forget to just have fun with our children!  How many times have you run through the park with your child?  How many times have you sat in a swing? How many times have you just sat down in a corner and laughed with your child?  Have you played "hide and seek" lately?  How about skipping down the sidewalk while your child is on his/her skateboard?  How about just having a family night of games with your children?

Children are so fresh, so innocent, so open-minded and so unassuming.  Wow!  Why can't we keep some of that? Even in our faith, we get so serious that we can not experience the simplicity of it!  God wants His children to have that child-like faith.  Matthew 18:4 states, "Whoever humbles himself like this child, is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven." As I watch children, at the preschool and all around, I am enthralled at the sweet beauty of their love, innocence and simple perception of life!  It is an awesome feeling to answer the questions of a child and to be a part of their world.  It is exhilarating to experience joy with a child, for he/she does not worry about the future, but rejoices in today!

James Russell Lowell, a famous poet, said it well: "Children are God's apostles, day by day sent forth to preach of love, hope, and peace!"

I encourage you to take time to see life "through the eyes of your child"!  Take a moment to read a funny story or share a "knock, knock joke"!  Take a trip to the park and let your child push you on the swing!  Prepare a simple picnic lunch and find the biggest shade tree around and share that time with your child!  Try the skateboard yourself or put skates on at the roller rink!  When you do, I believe you will find a fresh and new look at life...for a child's perspective can really cheer a weary soul!  And, guess what? Your child will be mesmerized at how much fun you can really be!

Here's to the journey!

Cynthia

June 24, 2011

"An Open-Door Policy?"

I love to watch animals, especially pets and their masters!  They have so many human qualities.  I believe that the Lord gave us animals to enjoy as part of His creation.  However, I have often wondered if the Lord wanted us to learn from them, also.  Pets teach us so much about loyalty, love, friendship and yes, even obedience and submission. 

We have two dogs, Bridget and Canyon.  They are outside dogs and we love them so much!  They are really cute together and both demand our love and attention.  Bridget is almost 14 years old and Canyon is 3, so he still has a lot of energy and youth in him. I get so tickled at Canyon because he just thinks he is welcome anywhere and also, thinks everything is his business!  Anytime I come in the house and leave the door open behind me, Canyon just prances on in without any concern that he is not supposed to do so.  He walks in like he is part of the family and should be anywhere we are!  I love that because it makes me feel like he knows we love him and that we care!  Bridget just sits at the steps and waits for an introduction to come in!

Now, I got to thinking about our children and how we parent them.  Are our homes and our attitudes toward our homes displayed in such a way that our children know they are loved, part of the family and that we really want them with us? Or, do your children have to "ask" to be part of the family or do they sometimes "shy" away from your love and actions as a parent?  I surely hope not! For, it is so important to keep those lines of communication open and for them to be "welcome" to share their inmost thoughts and feelings! These are parenting skills that many times just do not come natural, especially when you have a rebellious child.  You have to "work" on them!  You have to "practice" them!

Do you remember the first time you got a new pet, probably a puppy or kitten?  Did that pet just all of a sudden love you and want to be with you all the time?  Or, did that precious puppy or kitten have to learn your mannerisms, your voice, and your touch?

How can we parent in such a way that our children know we have "an open-door" policy?  I would recommend the following:

• Pray with your child on a daily basis.

• Be sure to read and learn God's Word together daily.

• Be careful that the outside world does not distract you from your children...be ready to listen!  Be available for your child!

• Set aside a time (put it on your calendar) to take your child out for "special" dates with just you!

• Pray for God's discernment so that you will know when your child is worried or bothered!

• Don't be afraid to discipline...for it is through godly discipline that your child learns how much you love him/her.

• Make his/her friends a part of the family...accept their peers and welcome them into your home, too!

• Let your child know you care about his/her interests!

• Do not let the "sun go down" on problems or bad attitudes in the home...work it out and pray together, asking the Lord to help you correct those things that come between you and your child!  Do it before bedtime!

You have the wonderful and awesome responsibility of raising your child!  If you trust the Lord, if you have Christ-like love for your child and build a God-centered home, your child will honor you and want to be with you!  Your child will know you have "an open-door" policy with the welcome mat ready for him/her to come to you at any time!  I am reminded of the verse, Matthew 7:7, which comes from "The Sermon on the Mount", where Jesus says: "Ask, and you shall receive; seek, and you shall find; knock, and the door shall be opened to you".  That is the attitude God wants us to have toward Him...what if your child could feel that toward you?

Well, back to our dogs...I am glad that Canyon feels like we have "an open-door" policy, but I also love the fact that Bridget waits patiently to be invited!

Here's to the journey!

Cynthia

June 17, 2011

"Stand Up and Be Counted!"

I have often thought about how wonderful it would be if I lived my life in such a way that God would describe me as a "woman of God" or a "woman after His own heart".  There are characters in the Bible who are recorded as being a "man of God"...Moses (1 Chronicles 23:14), Job (Job 1:1), Elisha (2 Kings 5:20) and David (Nehemiah 12:36)...there are many.  And, I have to ask myself the question..."What made the difference?"  It is also recorded that even Noah "walked with God" (Genesis 6:9).

The popular author and one of my favorites, Max Lucado, loves to share stories about his children.  When they were younger, he loved to watch for moments where he could protect them and stand up for them.  He said that when they traveled and were getting ready to board a plane or train, he would stand between each child and the attendant.  He would carefully give each child their ticket as they approached.  He knew the importance of his calling as a father. For, isn't that what God, our Father, does...stands between us and our needs...stands there waiting to protect and provide...waiting to offer His hand of love to His children?

In this world of constant confusion and harsh criticism about the family, don't we need men to be men?  Don't we need fathers to lead their homes as God established the home?  God puts it in the proper perspective when He says, "the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man , and the head of Christ is God" (1 Corinthians 11:3)! So, why can't we let the men of our homes be the leader of the family?  Our children need that kind of leadership! The Lord also admonishes fathers to be men of God..."to act justly and to love mercy, and to walk humbly before your God." (Micah 6:8, NIV).  He also gives Godly counsel to fathers, in Ephesians 6:4, when He says, "Fathers, do not exasperate your children, instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.

I believe the world needs Godly fathers...men who will train their children to love and live humbly before God and men...men who will live lives before their children that will require respect and obedience...men who are "imitators of God" (Ephesians 5:1), men who will teach their children to keep God's commandments and trust in Him (Psalm 78:7)...men who, like the father in the story of the prodigal son (Luke 15:11), are running, with open arms, to welcome and forgive a son or daughter who has gone astray!  We need men who want to stand up for their faith and their families!

After sharing these words, I do not want to close without saying that I know some great fathers...loving dads who give their lives for their wives and children...men who walk humbly before God and know the responsibility of being spiritual leaders in their homes...men who work tirelessly to protect and provide for their families...men who truly "fight the good fight of the faith"! (1 Timothy 6:11-16)  As a wife and mother, I want to say to you..."Thank you for being a Godly example to your children!  Do not be afraid to stand up and be counted...counted for your God and for your family!  The Lord will favor you for doing just that!"  

Oh, by the way, "Happy Father's Day"!

Here's to the journey!

Cynthia

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June 10, 2011

"Do You See Your Child's Potential?"

When I was growing up, my mother loved to tell the story of how she discovered my musical talent.  She said that one day, in our home, she heard the melody of "Jesus Loves Me" being played on the piano.  She went quickly to see who was playing and it was me!  At that time, I was only three!  She said that I had picked out the melody and was playing it with my left hand!  Being somewhat of a musician herself, she knew that the melody is usually played with the right hand.  So, that day, Mother determined in her heart to find me a teacher as soon as I was old enough.  She began searching for a piano teacher and found one who told her that as soon as I turned five, she would teach me.  I love to hear Mother tell that story and she tries to tell it even today!  I believe that day was the day that the Lord spoke to Mother about my potential.  And, praise the Lord, Mother listened to His prompting! She saw the gift and the potential God had for me!  And, in her obedience to God's prompting spirit, the path was laid out for my life! 

I think about Jesus and the years He walked on this earth...He saw the potential in many He came in contact with. He saw what they could do!  When He looked up in the tree and saw Zacchaeus, I believe He saw potential.  The potential in a man who had done a lot of dishonest things in his life, but one who could make it right and really be someone! The day that Jesus was teaching by the Lake of Gennesaret was a big day for some fishermen!  He saw their potential and called them to be His disciples!  I believe that God knew the young girl, Mary, could carry His son, Jesus!  I believe He knew she could withstand all that was ahead for her life!

Do you see your child's potential?  Take the time to know your child.  Take the time to ponder where his/her talent lies!  Take the time to know his/her interests in life!  Take the time to know what makes your child's heart leap!  Pray that the Lord will show you where you need to encourage your child and in what area he/she needs training.  Pray daily with your child and help him/her develop that faith in God's leading!

Above all, as a parent, ask God to help you guide your child.  It is your responsibility to pray for your child and to ask the Lord to show you where his/her greatest potential lies!  Don't be frightened, just trust God and let Him lead!

"It is God who works in you to will and to act according to His good purposes." Philippians 2:15 

Here's to the journey!

Cynthia

"What is Beauty?"

Today is my daughter's twenty-second birthday!  WOW!  It seems like yesterday that we were awaiting her birth on an early Saturday morning. When the clock struck 8:24am that morning, she arrived!  The doctor called out, "It's a girl! And, she's even got hair!"  Ed and I were so excited! And, as her daddy looked at her for the first time, he said, "Hey, she's even got your ears!"  What a beautiful moment that was!  The miracle of birth...God's promise of a family heritage...God's passing on of responsibility to me and Ed as her parents...to raise her in a Godly home and nurture her so that she would grow up loving the Lord!

Bethany was born with naturally beautiful hair...as she has grown up, at every age, she has just had "good hair"! When she was 2 and 3 years old, people would look at her and say, "Wow, what pretty hair you have, sweetie!"  She would just grin and look up at me. One Sunday, just a few days after she turned three, as we were all getting ready to head out for church, she came running into the bathroom, where I was doing my make-up.  I looked at her and said, "Oh, darling, you look so pretty!"  At that moment, she put both hands on her head and said, "Pretty hair?"  I said, "Yes, but your hair is not what makes you pretty...it's your heart that makes you beautiful!  Remember, it is what is in your heart that counts!"  I knew that at age three, she really did not fully understand the "heart thing", but I was profoundly reminded that I, as her mother, had to teach her about the beauty and purity a Godly heart must possess! From that day forth, I made it a point to remind my daughter about her heart every time she left the house..."Now, remember, it's what is in your heart that counts...that's where your beauty lies!"  

The world looks at beauty through different eyes than God!  We are hammered with worldly images of the pride, arrogance and false beauty that the world loves!  The TV, the internet, magazines and newspapers are full of it!  As parents, we must repute what the world loves when we are teaching our children to have a heart for God and the things of the Lord, for that is what will make their lives full and free...and blessed by God!  We must teach and live true beauty!

When God asked Samuel to bring Jesse's sons before Him when choosing a king to follow Saul, the Lord was very clear about what kind of king He desired for Israel.  In 1 Samuel 16:7, the Lord said to Samuel, "Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart."  Then, when the youngest son, David, was called, he was anointed as the one to be king..."and the spirit of the Lord came mightily upon him from that day forward". 

The psalmist David prayed for a heart that was beautiful in the Lord's sight: "Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Thy sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer!" (Psalm 19:14, NASB) "Create in me a clean heart, O God." (Psalm 51:10a, NASB)  As Jesus preached to the multitudes on the mountain, He emphasized the heart in saying, "Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God!" (Matthew 5:8, NASB)

So, what is beauty?  I conclude that beauty is a man or woman committed to the desires of the Lord...fully committed to obeying His Word...and fully committed to a clean, pure heart!  And, our children are certainly worth a daily reminder of those things for their lives and future!  The Lord will honor your commitment to Him through your children!

Here's to the journey!

Cynthia

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May 27, 2011 

"Are You Creating a Masterpiece?"

Thomas Kinkade is one of my favorite artists.  You just look at his work and it is vividly alive!  He has become known as the "painter of light", for, in his work the light shines through!  Think of an artist taking a canvas and stroke by stroke creating a masterpiece. Think of our God...we are His greatest creation, His greatest masterpieces.  He designed each of His children with radiant beauty, a uniqueness all our own and with a great potential to shine for Him!  We are to be "painters of His light" for the world to see!

I have thought many times of how we create masterpieces with our children.  Does every day really count as we raise our children? Does every stroke of love, care and  nurturing really count in their lives?  No matter how you look at it, your child is an example of how you have raised him or her.  They are replicas of you!  Now, that can be astounding! When you think that every word, every action, every touch you give in their lives will be influential in shaping them into what they will be as an adult...WOW!   Little by little, those strokes will create that picture of who your child will be!

I overheard a conversation between a mother and her eight-year-old son one day.  He seemed very anxious about his life and what he would become...well, as anxious as an eight-year-old could be.  As he questioned his mother about life, he was very intent on his future.  After quite a deliberation, she smiled sweetly and looked into his big brown eyes and said, "Son, just take one day at a time and allow God to use every moment to finish the work He has begun in you! And, remember, your father and I will be with you every step of the way!"  In my heart, I could not help but feel the huge responsibility that mother was feeling at that moment.  For, in my heart, as a mom, I have always felt accountable for what my children will become one day!

Take advantage of every moment with your children!  As, hard as it is some days, remember to paint love and light into their lives! Take the journey one day at a time!  Trust God for guidance and be an example...an example of His light...shining forth for the world to see!  For, one day, they will become you! 

What kind of masterpiece will you create?  What kind of light will shine forth from your children?

"Even in darkness, light dawns for the upright, for the gracious and compassionate and righteous man." Psalm 112:4, NIV

Here's to the journey!

Cynthia

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May 20, 2011

"Does God Have His Hand on You?"

 

The Old Testament speaks of Ezra, a scribe, who was skilled in the law of Moses, which Yahweh, the God of Israel had given. (Ezra 7:6) King Artaxerxes was so impressed with Ezra and his God that he granted Ezra everything he requested for the kingdom.  In verse 10, the Word of God clearly states that Ezra had determined in his heart to study the law of the Lord, obey it and teach its statutes and ordinances.  As I studied this story, I could not help but wonder if I had determined in my heart to do such and I wondered if God's hand was upon my life.  I wondered if I was so in tune with God, that others notice...my husband, my children, my friends and those I come in contact with.  Do I have a heart that is serious about my God and the work He has called me to do?

When it comes to raising our children and being the spiritual influence they need, can we afford to miss any of these three steps...to "study, obey and teach"?  It is our utmost responsibility, in parenting our children, to be sure that they have the spiritual nurturing and training they need in order to make the decision to follow Christ and His mission here on earth.  Consistency in our lives is a key element in the way we live our lives before our children.  Remember, the best teaching is always "caught" not "taught"!

The day will come when your children will want to be on their own. When that time comes, will they continue in the faith?  Will they continue having a prayer life and studying God's Word?  The best way for you to know that they will, is for you to "walk" that walk before them now, while they are young, while they are teachable, while their hearts are soft and pliable.  Let them see you praying, let them see you studying God's Word and share with them your obedience to God and why it is so important.

I once heard of a young man, who at age twenty-five, had sought to know God's will for his life.  He searched and searched and knew he was lost.  He asked question after question and finally one day came to know the Lord.  When his mentor asked him why it took him so long, he answered, " I never had a model.  I never knew what it was all about!"

Don't let the time pass by without your children knowing your faith and your love for your God!  Begin today!  Don't let tomorrow catch you by surprise!

"Behold, the eye of the Lord is on those who fear Him, on those who hope for His lovingkindness." Psalm 33:18, NASB

Here's to the journey!

Cynthia

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